How Do I Tell My Partner/Boyfriend?



Often women worry about how their partner will react to the news of an unexpected pregnancy. Below are some simple steps you can take to help when sharing this news.

Although these are good strategies to utilize when you tell your partner, it is crucial for your health and well-being to seek help if your partner is abusive, and/or you believe he may react violently to the news.  The Domestic Abuse Hotline is open 24/7 by calling 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) (program this into your phone) or texting at 88788.

What Do I Do First?

Learning about all of your Pregnancy Options – and knowing which one you are most wanting – will give you confidence and help you not feel pressured into one choice over another.

At San Antonio Pregnancy Care Center, we can confidentially discuss your 3 options: parenting, abortion and adoption.  We will provide accurate medical information about each option and allow you to ask questions.

Then What?

It is important to think about what you want to say to your partner.  Preparing beforehand  will help you feel self-assured.  Here are some ideas -

  1. Do I know which option(s) for this pregnancy I’m considering? and why?
  2. What do I need most from my partner right now?
  3. How can my partner best support me?
  4. How will I respond if he doesn’t support me?

No matter how your partner responds, San Antonio Pregnancy Care Center is here for you.

Where? When?

After learning about your options and being able to process them, it is vital to tell your partner during a time when he will be able to give you focused attention. 

Pick a place that is comfortable for you – perhaps in a public setting? perhaps at a time when you are both less busy?

Deciding in advance the words, the time and place will give you an element of control.

We’re glad you started here. Call or chat with us now if you’d like to talk more!

Whenever you need us, we can help!